I started with two books...can only remember one title...Divorce for dummies...I think the other one was life after divorce...

Anyway you hit the hammer on the nail...there is an extreme amount of details...somehow we need to get you a copy of a typical template the attorneys in your state use...so we know the general make up of one...have you seen a divorce decree...

I could probably PM some of the language that is included in mine...just real general...

Just be aware as you start making this official the judge may give visitation rights...this can be a problematic issue...you may be able to prove his lack of relationship and support...but you never know what a judge will do...

We never went to court as we didn't want a judge deciding things for us...after several drafts, a mediation, and a few more final drafts...we were able to get it done without a judge...Took about a year to get to that point