Hey KinkyGuy. I am glad you posted this. We all get up there when we feel midlife has failed us. We either have friends but no job, money. Or we have money, job but no time for friends. Each of us has to find what works for ourselves. You need friends for yourself. Is there any hobbies that you are interested in that you can pursue? This gives you an opportunity to bond with other male friends to visit with. Like hiking, bird watching, fishing, photography, etc. There are many ways to slowly get involved in the community and to meet new people without spending a lot of money. Local libraries have book clubs that you can join. You read a book and get together and discuss the book. That is free and usually there is refreshments and coffee afterwards. Check into your local towns newspaper for events that you can get involved in and it can open up a world of opportunities for you. Don't think about it, just do it. The rest will come naturally. I hope this helps. Blessings.