Attachment + sexual attraction, does not = romance.


I agree that you are confused, and that's ok.


The attachment you are describing is based on friendship and loyalty.

You each care for the wellbeing of the other and the longevity of your friendship.


Sexual attraction / fantasies, that's physical and not always tied to the emotional. You can be sexually attracted to random people you have no romantic feelings for.


He may even have been confused himself about his sudden attraction to you and wanted to talk it out, maybe make it go away, by mutual agreement that nothing will ever happen between you because he loves his gf. Idk, could be something to do with the baby interrupting his sex life. Our imaginations can run wild in times of "need".


Anyway, I also don't know why he told you, if that's important for you to know, then its up to you to ask him to clarify. I'm just speculating like the rest of the posters.


But it IS important that you understand that there are different types of attachment and that adding a sexual component, willingly or not, into the mix, does not equal romance.


Sex is sex, love is love, attachment is attachment.


They're all separate, but incredible when they are all experienced together.


I hope that helps lessen your confusion.