Hi and thanks for the welcome here today Sir U !

The relationship ended because I realised I was having a relationship with someone who was mirroring me to keep me around but was also using all my quirks and interests and thoughts to gain supply elsewhere. When you see an email to another person that you haven't written but is using direct quotes that you have made! He was also buying everything I bought or showed an interest in. It seemed to drive him more and more crazy that he wasn't getting as much attention as me by acting like me so I ended it. I couldn't stop being myself to just to please him.

The risks would be that I told people I ended it. He always has to be the one to end a 'relationship'. I quit when I realised I did not want to see him ever again. That's something he couldn't control so yes, I would say you are correct that paying me is one thing he could have control over. I asked for a letter of reference and dismissal on the spot as I would not have had to have contact with again him again after that. So I get the opposite of what I asked for!

I wouldn't be a requirement because I no longer play along but his requirement of needing to feel in control and in command must be a priority. It doesn't matter to me what he says to people about why I left so perhaps in some bizarre way he is also paying for my silence. Maybe he just wants me to feel he is a nice guy cos it was the complete collapse of any future interactions with him. Maybe I'm puzzled because there is always more than one reason why I do anything but don't comprehend that for anyone N-ish there is only one reason?