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Old Dec 03, 2015, 09:20 PM
nunya54 nunya54 is offline
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Originally Posted by starfruit504 View Post
That is creepy. It's also wrong, abnormal, abusive and amounts to sexual harassment. Don't be confused, what he is doing is overtly sexual and inappropriate, there's nothing nonsexual about it.

You need to tell someone of authority immediately. Tell your mother, no matter how hard that seems. Counseling is free to students at universities, so you could speak with a therapist there who could have real concrete steps for you to take. If there isn't an immediate intervention on your mother's part you should report it to police.

You need to get him out of your household or get yourself out of the household. His inappropriate behavior isn't lessening and could escalate.

I grew up in a similar situation. Don't make the mistake of thinking this is normal. Appropriate dads and stepdads don't do this. They have appropriate boundaries and would never sexualize a daughter or stepdaughter. You shouldn't have this disgusted feeling at the pit of your stomach. Girls in normal homes don't have that creepy, disturbed feeling about their father or stepfather - just people like you and me. It took me a long long time to learn that.
I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from. You're right on about the disgusted feeling in the stomach.

I wonder about the situation escalating, but I doubt it because I've lived with him for years before. Or maybe he just recently become attracted? I have lost some weight recently, so maybe that was it? I really have no idea how long it's been going on.

I only caught on maybe a year ago, and I made up some phony excuse to live with my dad across town. Unfortunately, I had to move out of my dad's place because he had problems with a live-in girlfriend hooked on drugs. So I moved back in my with mom, and now this happens again. I hate feeling like I have nowhere to go.

Do you think things could escalate with my stepdad? Besides all this, he's totally normal and supportive most of the time. And he's never said this stuff to my face, besides regular compliments when my mom's around or something.