thanks guys.

i think... its good. the biggest obstacle for me was past %#@&#! (abuse of power type relationships). but... there isn't a power differential. he isn't my supervisor. he isn't on my panel or grading my work. my supervisor here (who knows the guy quite well) didn't have a problem with it at all. my friend who was a little freaked has had a lot of stuff going on for her and her response / reaction was coming from there mostly...

we get on really well. complimentary. he is a morning person. up and at 'em quite early and putting coffee on and all but singing and getting into work quite early. it takes me a while to come around but much easier with him being up and at 'em. and being productive too.

he is into yoga and martial arts and stuff too. i've been meaning to get into yoga and stuff. i won't ever get into running with him, but i could be tempted to get into yoga and stuff.

what is in it for him??? he freaks out a lot when he doesn't really need to. i guess i can be kinda reassuring and sympathetic. helps me to have a secure base for social interactions. maybe... helps him a little too... not quite sure what he sees in me, but he seems to see something...

and that is good.

hardest thing now is the distance aspect :-( 15 hour time difference and in different hemispheres :-(

he brought me a calling card with 2,000 minutes. and we can email. we think we are fairly sure... if we think we are still fairly sure over the next few months... then we are going to try and meet up. i think he is keen to show me his neck of the woods (he has a house and a job and stuff). will be a distance relationship for a while... but if we are sure then i guess we will find a way to make it work. and... if it doesn't work then i really hope we can remain friends because i like him a whole heap. i know he ain't perfect and he has some habits that annoy me... but then i know i'm not perfect, either. he said that i'm complicated and he knows that a relationship with me will be complicated with all my insecurities and fears. but... we have fun and he seems willing to try (as willing as i am to try). and... i've never felt so respected by a partner before. respected and my being actually really genuinely interested in them both at the same time.

saw him off on sunday :-(

miss him already.