feeling guilty is normal in this situation, and very common, I was just talking about my guilt to a nurse yesterday whilst she was doing a mental health assessment, because I was asking to get referred to counselling and explained to her why I didn't do it earlier, I said it was due to my guilt, but said I'm aware now that I've been groomed to feel guilty for him, whilst he doesn't take any responsibility for what he did to me, and I thought that counselling would make me feel more guilty and that I'd have to explain, justify it to my counsellor, but now I realise, I still carry on with the guilt but I know now it'a misplaced guilt, and know now that counselling will help me process this guilt and help me to realise I wasn't to blame, because now it's not what he did to me what I need therapy for, it's how it's made me feel about myself, that's what I need help with.