I am new to this forum... please excuse my lack of proper terminology. Here is my scoop... I have recently started dating this wonderful man. I am 33 and he is 39. My experience with therapy is somewhat limited. He has been through extensive therapy, and is very "aware". I really dig this! I am learning a lot about myself through interacting with him! I feel like this may be the first healthy relationship I have ever experienced. The only problem I tend to have is that he constantly seems to try to "figure" out why things happen. There always has to be a reason WHY things happen. Through his therapy, he has gotten to the "root" of his problems. His dad was an alcoholic, and he seems to do a bit of blaming his problems on his terrible childhood. I just feel unknowledgeable about all of this... but it seems that all of this pinpointing of the past can be counterproductive. Should one focus on the "now"? Please help... I love being with him, I just fear the analysis paralysis. Thanks- Kim