It matters. Happiness is the most important, but success is an amazing feeling that can help you find it. It can give you confidence and show you that what you desire is attainable. I wish I could muster the determination and focus to go back to school and get a degree.

I have a gaming buddy who’s a complete a-hole, and freely admits it. But he does have some redeeming qualities, and I’ve had some good times with him. And we accept him for who he is. Of course, we meet at his house, so I guess we have to keep him around. They even tolerate me, it’s astounding. My point is that if that guy has friends, then I refuse to accept that an honest, loyal, trustworthy, and kind, but not sweet per se, person can’t as well. Those all seem like important qualities to me. Maybe the most important. If you can find comfort in being yourself, you can find people who not only accept, but appreciate and love you. There will always be disingenuous pretender people who don’t like you. That’s okay, there are also a lot of people. So many people. Of all varieties. I guarantee there are some for you just as there are some that aren’t. Don’t give up.

I’m an INTJ as well. My similar problem is more that I don’t even know how to open up. Burned or not, I’m envious that you’ve been able to. It feels like I’m behind an impassable wall that I likely built myself. The only meaningful relationships I’ve ever had are with my family, and I feel unable to open up even to them. Yes, that does mean I have a family who accepts me, and I feel fortunate for that, but lately I often think I’d rather be rid of that wall so I could feel close to someone for once in my life. So you’re not alone in, uh… being alone. That probably doesn’t help. Sorry I suck at this.

I’ve been feeling pretty down myself, but just trying to encourage you has made me feel a little better. Thanks.