OMG, i don't matter... what an awful guilt trip to lay on someone! This person has no business being a therapist, in my humble opinion... The implication here is that you could just "snap out of it" if you wanted to. Sure, if you had a serious physical illness, that would really be difficult for your daughter too. But would your doctor say: "You know your illness is really messing your daughter up?" Of course not! Yes, there are all sorts of experiences that we all have to negotiate growing up. And, yes, it might be of some value for your daughter to have the opportunity to talk things through with her own therapist. (Not THIS ONE!) But there is no fault here, which I think your therapist's statement implies. It's just life. Perhaps your therapist didn't mean for this to come out the way it did. I hope that, in retrospect, she's biting her tongue. Therapists are, after all, people too. I hope that you will be able to let this poor turn of phrase go to wherever it is poorly chosen words go. I wish you well...