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Originally Posted by capricorn1975
At the time I was looking for a committed relationship. Unlike some people, I don't have to know someone very long sometimes before I'm willing to sleep with them. Not to say that I don't have decent standards, but I'll admit I am a very sexual person, and what some people might think of as jumping into bed too fast, I am personally sometimes ok with that if I like the person.
Now, my circumstances have changed, and I no longer desire a deep relationship, because of my complicated life, but more of a FWB. I realize that that isn't a lot of people's thing, but I am comfortable with that if I like the person.
That said, online dating in my opinion has advantages and disadvantages. I for one am very limited in being able to get out and meet people any other way, because of my location and circumstances.
Online dating is also risky because there are seriously a lot of weird people out there, and you have to be careful. Be prepared to have nerves of steel because there are a lot of players and weirdos online, just like in real life. I have been disappointed many times. I have met a lot of people online. Some were nice, some were not. I've had my emotions toyed with many times. Never did have a long term relationship from being online.
My advice. Be careful. And use your best judgment. But keep an open mind.
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I, like you, am a very sexual being but getting out and about is hard for me as well. I had two relationships that lasted 7 months each and both guys I wound up sleeping with within a couple months upon first meeting them.
I am not into fwb as it only serves to complicate things.
However, I don't think I can do a relationship again because I like my space and the freedom to do what I want when I want it. I guess having to sacrifice even a bit of this sounds selfish of me but I hate being smothered.
Like you, I have been toyed with, to the point of breaking down completely and going to a psych hospital for an evaluation. I just don't know if it's in me to work at building something up if the inevitable is to have it come crashing down all around me.