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Originally Posted by KinkyGuy
Explain this feeling, please. This is my least favorite season! I have a family, a wife and a beautiful daughter, a pretty safe life but I have no friends of my own. Not close ones. I have some (very few) scattered around the Globe but often I just want to chat a little (and I do not mean online but face-to-face) and I have nobody to talk to. Internet is my substitute (Skype) but even there, nobody ever calls me, I should reach out and I am usually just in the dark. These feelings are usually surfacing when I am in my elevated mood and subside when I am down. (then I don't want to talk). The problem is that I like to talk to interesting people not just anybody. When I am down, I can be dismissive and aloof. We have a circle of "friends" with my wife but that is not what I am looking for.
I am 59 (on Saturday) and I have no close relationship (a friend). People are just too busy or schedules do not match, or our interest are different. I think my problem is my mood disorder but there is nothing I can do other than start meds (lithium). Even that is uncertain because making friends at my age is hard.
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Basically sounds you do have some type of mood disorder or are what they used to call 'touchy". You have a family but you still don't sound like your happy with just that. I'll take it. I just got divorced after a very long marriage,
and have two estranged older children. So I lost my whole family.
Also sounds like at least you know some people. I have yet to make real life friends as I am starting all over in a new place. Seems like you talk when your in the mood. You have ups and downs. Your like me also in the fact that I just don't talk to "anybody" just to talk.
Your wife's friends don't appeal to you. I think we have similar conditions in that we are hard to be friends WITH. When I get depressed I don't want to talk to anyone , ( except my therapist if I happen to have one at the time ).
You mention Lithium. Have you ben diagnosed by anyone ? Maybe you can use some medication for your mood.
BTW: I wasn't trying to compare your life with mine. I'm just saying what you have and I have lost. I don't really know who's better off.
Starting over at 60 was not something I had planned.
Good luck to you