Kim (like the name by the way):

Most certainly one should focus on the "now", but it's really complicated, because sometimes our now's are so influenced by the then's. I can understand where he comes from and I can relate a bit to what you mean, as I'm getting to the root of my problems, by over self-analysing and my husband is having to deal with it :P

I think it's great that he knows himself. Just if there is a problem with overanalyzing every little cotton-pickin' thing, then just tell him. Be open, tell him you don't have much experience with therapy and love learning techniques for reaching inside one's mind, but ask him not to analyze every single thing you do as a motive or because you had a rotten childhood, etc. Sometimes I'm just a nag because I'm a nag. Know what I mean?

Good luck.

Kimberly.