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I try to talk about important things and just come away from seeing her feeling empty.

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and I think she has tried to change things when we've discussed how I feel.

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That is a good sign she tries to change to give you what you need. But her changes aren't helpful? It sounds really hard to go to therapy if you come away from being with her feeling empty. Can you and she brainstorm about how things could be different so you wouldn't feel that way? To me it sounds like she's not clearly the wrong T for you but not clearly the right one either. That is great she is a nice person. It sounds like more discussing of this between the two of you could be helpful in your decision of whether to stay or look elsewhere.

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I'm scared to change in case I get someone worse.

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You know more now about what you are looking for in a therapist, so I don't think you would "get" someone worse. If you do decide to leave your current T, you would not choose someone new who was worse for your next T, only someone who is better and you think can fill your needs. You would know better what questions to ask at your interview, and what sort of therapeutic approach and type of relationship you are looking for. You have learned these things from being with your current T.

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I like the system my group therapist uses so I need to see if she can recommend someone using the same system. Except my group therapist knows my individual and recommended her in the first place.

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What system does your group T use? Could you see your group T for individual therapy? Your group T may have recommended your T not because she uses the same system, but for other reasons. If you specifically ask your group T for referrals to therapists who use the same approach as he, you could get some great suggestions.

Good luck, debbie. It is a hard decision.