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Originally Posted by JustShakey
(((Scarlet)))
It seems to be a basic rule of therapists not to apologize. The more experienced ones will often reject that rule on a case by case basis - like a good T should, people do not come out of a cookie cutter machine.
However, as you say, your group T is an intern and under supervision. He's playing by the book, in part because he's still learning and in part because he could get into trouble if he doesn't.
I would try not to take it too personally. It is a very good idea to meet with him, even if you don't get the outcome you desire. You are learning to face your fears head on and how to deal with conflict and possibly unresolvable differences of opinion 
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My T wants me to do a one on one to teach both myself and group T. My T doesn't think group T has had much experience with BPD. He does individual and group therapy, he works at a college as a T, and he works at the county's main mental health hospital. None of those things would give him constant access to an individual with BPD except individual and group therapy. But in group, I'm the only one with BPD... So I'm probably his first high functioning BPD client.
In my experience, Ts do apologize. Group T has apologized in the past (when he said in group that I'm being resistant). And it wasn't "I'm sorry you feel this way" bs apology. Those apologies are a waste of air.
But having this one on one meeting will hopefully benefit both of us. At the very least, it forces me to face my fears just as you mentioned. And hopefully it gets resolved enough that I will want to remain in group.