Hello Fightharder: I'm sorry you are having such difficulty. Problems at work have a way of spilling over into our home lives as well. I don't know that I have any particular suggestions for you here. I think the important thing, in your upcoming meeting, will be to remain calm & try to stick to the facts of the situation, as you believe them to be. Is there any possibility of you having someone attend the meeting with you to support you? This might help you to feel more self-confident & at ease. My best wishes to you...