Great news for my husband when he talked to Social Security today, he qualified for the disability this time.....not only that, but they make it retro back to June last year, so he will be getting enough money to help him out for awhile & to live on by himself so I don't have to continue to support him after we are separated & while our California house is being sold.

I hope this will motivate him to start being a more active part in packing up the house instead of telling me that it is all my stuff. I thought he would have medical coverage, but guess that doesn't happen for 2 years....& he won't talk to them about if there is anything he can do about it....just wants to WAIT until he gets his paperwork & talk to them then. Of course, no way could he ever take some iniciative & talk to them now & get some direction so he knows if there is something he can do immediately at that point.

Now he will still have the excuse that he can't get better without meds or a therapist since he keeps telling me that nothing can be done for him with ADD unless he has meds & a therapist. Like he doesn't have to do anything...the meds & therapist are magic & will make him all better so until then, there isn't anything that can be done!!!!

I am very happy that he finally convinced himself that he was disabled enough to file for the disability. The first time he filed for it, he didn't believe that he was disabled, so when they denied him, he was so happy because they told him what he knew anyway "that he wasn't disabled". This time, it was like pulling teeth, but my therapist worked on convincing him that he really was "entitled" to disability.

This is really a very good thing for him & I really am happy for him. I want him to have a chance to figure out who he really is....something he never bothered to do his whole 55 years of life. Hopefully this will give him a chance to grow up. It sounds strange saying something like this about a person who had an engineering career for 20 years before he finally messed that up with his attitude.

At least he will have some money to live on now....& hopefully will be responsible enough to handle what he will be given better than he did in his past.

Debbie