It seems like your T knows he made a mistake. His mistake has brought up a lot of emotion for you, it can be a good chance to explore this, sometimes good things can out of mistakes. I also see my T at her home, I usually drive and wait round the corner in the car until the exact time, to be honest I feel like a bit of a lemon doing this. Occaisionally I walk and if I am early I also wait round the corner, also feeling like a lemon. I've never talked to T about this. It is a bit of a problem if you see a T in their home.