I'm proud of myself that I just told my husband what to do, so that he would do the right thing. In the past, I just get mad, hurt, and cry, ruining it for everybody.

I didn't realize tonight was the first night of Chanukkah. I thought it was tomorrow. I had bought our 13 year old son a couple of things. He really didn't even want anything, so they are token things. I bought my husband a nice shirt.

We just came from seeing a Christmas movie. All about the spirit and family, yada yada yada... I realize it is Chanukkah. I say to my husband, in front of our son, 'Do you want to go get latkes, donuts, etc for tonight?' and how I had presents, but hadn't wrapped them yet.

My husband said 'I didn't focus on Chanukkah this year'. In other words, he wants nothing to do with the holiday. He has done this crap to me for twenty years! My son won't say anything, but I know he is bummed.

So when we got home, I told my husband 'I want you to go back out, and go buy the few things to make this holiday while I wrap the presents'. And he did. I said 'You don't say you didn't focus on Chanukkah-- f***in' focus!' lol. I feel like a b**ch, but at least I'm not crying and I'm not going to let him crush our kid.