Hazn,

Trying to reach out, it won't help. There can be a mixture of I'm a good person let me see if I can help...maybe it will change her.... it can be another chance. Don't. I did the same thing and it made things worse. They have demons. When they hit bottom they'll have to figure out how to address them. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped.

If you were too good for her, that probably played into her insecurities. Maybe not, but just knowing you had more to give just shows you it was not meant to be. It hurts, you think about the good times, the small moments when the person showed you they care. But, it's what we wanted to see. It will take time, but you look back and see all the bad things.

It's all about self-preservation now. I wouldn't reach out to her. If you want closure, like answers to questions ... you may want to try but you know this person better than I do in terms of whether they will be truly honest and answer your questions. I did the same with my recent ex and he responded and tried to explain but I also saw in his explanation that he didn't care and not only had moved on but seemed happy to get rid of me. So, it made things worse. In hindsight I should have never attempted to reach closure like that. I should have just accepted that I would have unanswered questions and focused on getting better. It delayed my progress.