Thanks for those comments, but this child is WAY more extreme than the regular teenager. I feel that I am not conveying to you just how extreme her behavior is. It's WAY beyond the realm of just staying out later than she is supposed to. Her behavior is destroying my family.
She has bipolar. She has major mood swings. You cannot tell her to do anything and if you do she either verbally abuses me, tries to exit moving vehicles, leaves the home and disappears, threatens to call social services. That would be something, but this is over the most minute requests. School has called us in for meetings because they are worried about her. She does things that are really beyond a joke then next minute acts like nothing happened.
I truly can't do it justice on one forum post the daily behavior we deal with and how we are walking on eggshells all the time as to how she will react next. She has a counselor and a psychiatrist and the counselor is out of ideas as to how to manage her.
I was hoping some parents of bipolar teens like me would be able to offer some constructive advice.
I'm at the point of nearing a breakdown myself at this point if I don't get help. I'm also going to a support group this coming Tuesday, but I thought a post in here might receive some helpful advice.

EDIT- She has previously been diagnosed with ODD. Could it be that she has that AONGSIDE the BP if you guys don't think the oppositional stuff has anything to do with the BP? I did read a book on BP, called 'The Bipolar Child' and it mentioned lots of kids with BP being oppositional, and how you can't parent them normally because the usual discipline tactics as used on a non BP child just make things worse in a kid with BP. Just wanted to add that.