I think "cheesy" might be the wrong term????

Why when you are first getting to know someone are you asking for reassurance? Sounds like some level of insecurity on your part. I think you were wise to take a break while he is gone if you really haven't known each other that long for a commitment like that to be appropriate.

I still think 20 texts even short stuff is a lot especially if mostly initiated by you.

Hmmmm he spent the night drinking with friends....that would be a HUGE red flag for me. Didn't do what he said & was planning because of drinking. What happens when it's something with or for you he doesn't do for the same reason? Do you really want someone like that closely touching your life?.... Just something more to really think about IMO.