I wasn't sure which forum to go to with this, but then I thought, if anyone knows about imtimacy difficulties, it's survivors like us. I have a hx of molestation as a child and I've yet to have a real, honest, healthy relationship. It's something I want very much, but I didn't realize how afraid I am of real intimacy, not the kind that I've had over the years. I went on this dating site, and even though I've been told that a lot of the people are not who they say they are, at least it's giving me the opportunity to communicate and to share my thoughts without so much anxiety. I tried it months ago and found myself so scared, thinking that someone was going to come and get me,(even though I use a different zip code) I don't know if it's going to work out, but at least I'm going at my own pace, and I feel more in control somehow. How do you guys handle intimacy issues (i.e. letting someone get close to the "real" you)?

dorsey