That's not true that I don't want to get involved with her. You're right though, I'm not getitng the help I need here. That's for sure.

* I don't want to give up on her, that's why I am seeking support. I don't know how to have a relationship with her when she has categorically stated she will do what she likes, when she likes. And she does do what she likes, and even though it is my house, it's sometimes not worth the end argument trying to get her to do stuff.
I'll stop writing now. I'll go to a parent support place. I don't think this was the right place. I just thought it was the BP forum and I'd get help.