Perhaps approach intimacy issues and dating with a long timeline of when to reveal the vulnerable parts of yourself....let's say you exchange either an email or telephone call with someone from the website..and the topic of church comes up...you could reveal a little....like my parents went to church and it was a little on the ironic side as they didn't always behave morally...i.e. revealing a LITTLE about your life....let's say the topic of who you've dated in the past comes up...reveal a LITTLE not that you've never had a real, honest, relationship....explain you're picky NOW because you've made some bad choices in the past....with time you can reveal a little more, a little more, it's a very slow process...people may tell you otherwise about dating websites yet I think it's great you're starting there- something about writing to someone via email instead of a live chat you can think about what you're writing- you can even sense how good their sense of humor is, if you add little jokes. I've found most people are pretty accepting of both mental illness AND past abuse, the great majority of the population...write us again and let us know more?