Until I saw my current T, I wouldn't have understood how the quality of the relationship could affect my therapy. As long as I didn't think they hated me, it would probably be ok. My first session with my current T, and I knew I'd really like her. She got where I was at really quickly, and she makes it easy to like her. I realized recently that I haven't been anxious for the past few weeks, which is AMAZING for me. I spent 5 years being anxious last time. This time, it took 6 months. I'm not saying I am "secure" in the relationship, because I'm not-but I can see this actually helping me.