Thi sounds good. One question though. You say don't let her do as she pleases, which usually I don't. However, if rules are put in place, she basically acts the victim and screams abuse. I sat her down today and told her, if there's a curfew and you break it, there will be a consequence. When I have laid down rules before, she tells me I've ruined her life and because I'm such a ***** she'll just behave worse than ever. So here's the thing, I struggle to find the 'parenting' happy medium with her, because she sees me acting as her parent, as me being 'defiant.' She seems to have ideas of superiority. She's never liked having adults tell her what to do and has always acted as if she is the adult and her parents have NO right whatsoever to question her on anything from school work to the state of her room. I just have tried all different styles of parenting, and don't seem to get any of them right.
Thanks!