I understand. I guess my thought was more on the random side, a tangent to the home wrecker thing, and not really directed at you. I think it's more of a societal thing.....yes, it takes two to tango and both are responsible, BUT "home wrecker" puts all the blame on the woman......when the truth is that AT LEAST half of the blame is on the guy, and if the guy is presenting himself as single the whole time, I'd say it's 100% his fault and the OW is as much of a victim.....of course again these are random thoughts and I'm not even referring to the OP in my scenario/reply.