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Originally Posted by hahayeahtotallylol
Doesn't matter what came out of her mouth, if you are not true to who you are, it will never work out anyway.
So, if "annoying and selfish" is your "fun, lively and truthful to myself", then let her find someone as boring as her to hang out with instead  |
yeah this is true. I think I'll give her opportunity to elaborate some more on it though. She was more vague than I would like.
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Originally Posted by CopperStar
The value of taking your time comes towards the end of doing so. What you describe reminds me a lot more of my BPD streak than my BP symptoms, so I'm relating more from a borderline angle. That said, giving it a couple weeks will allow you to see if your feelings change, only minus all the drama, roller coasters and emotional angst that would happen if you were to keep pushing forward instead of just waiting a bit. Idealization and desperation tend to require a lot of contact initially, it's like a "feeding" in a way, and you can't feed if you're not at the table. But if 2 weeks goes by and you've had time to sit on the feelings and thoughts, and you feel calm at the end, then that is a much better sign if you choose to pursue her.
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I've heard it suggested I could have BPD. I think I'll mention to my therapist about it. But yeah I think this time is a good thing to take so both of us clear our minds and have a mature conversation. Bit nerve racking in a sense, but I think time really lessens the likelihood of it getting mean or anything again.
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