You're experience remind me a lot of dealing with a child that has ODD. Although I think BP probably has its influence too. And then just being a teen. You have your hands full! My son has ADHD and ODD and boy can I relate, though my son is much younger. He used to be really extreme until we found the right med and routine combination. He goes to a behavioral school, and they have REALLY helped.

I wish I could give you some advice, but I'm not sure I have any good advice to give. Is your daughter on any meds? They can help (but the wrong combo can also cause problems). A behavioral or vocational school may help too.