So i realize everyone is different and has different values but whenever I'm hurting i feel like people say things to further hurt me. Or maybe i'm taking everything too personal because i've been hurt recently emotionally. Nothing bad from anyone on here but just people in my everyday life like co-workers. I'm still having a very hard time coping with how the person i was seeing hurt me by lying to me from day one... Saying he was single but was engaged the whole time. Later going on to tell me he loved me, he would never hurt me, etc. And when i found out about the fiance and confronted him he disappeared days later and I haven't heard from him since. His behavior was very selfish and never once did he consider my feelings but yet it seems like some people think its my fault for getting involved with him but again how was i to know from day one that he was lying? Even when I confronted him i still never got the truth he never admitted to it. If i'm supposed to heal from this how can i not beat myself up when i hear things like men do what you allow them to! Help, I don't know what to think anymore!!!