My husband is an only child of elderly parents. His parents are so strange and he learned from them. R (my husband) is genius smart and professionally excellent, but all he does is watch TV or stay glued to his Smart Phone-- no kidding. He doesn't think about anybody else. No matter how I feel or what I say, he can't change.

I don't even think he's being passive-aggressive about the holidays, which he has always tormented me with. He just won't play my reindeer games! It hurts so bad, I've cried and been debilitatingly depressed. It's not about the stupid present. There isn't even anything I want. It's the thought, it's the normalcy, it's having any expectation and having that dashed and being disappointed.

Even our sex life is like this. That is the worst part of it. I've started divorce twice before and couldn't go through with it.. I accept it now, done trying to set myself free.

I think, because this time he was going to hurt our kid, that I found the strength to not let that happen.

I think I have Relationship OCD because I keep thinking that I never felt right and don't really belong with this man. How could me be the right one when I have always been so unhappy with him? But, no matter how I have tried to work things out, they never did. And I tell myself that if he was really all that great, he never would have settled for me (such low self esteem).

And, the shirt I bought him is sitting open in the box. I will leave it sitting there on the kitchen table. He will leave it sitting there forever, if I don't go and hang it up.

He's not malicious, just really lazy.