Well, most men will do whatever you allow them too... but that's their fault for not disciplining themselves too--and it's not just men!

I think we are much more sensitive when we are hurting and take many things "the wrong way". But there are those who do intentionally try to make others feels worse, so they feel better or some screwy psychology like that.... after a while you learn to drop them as friends and avoid family like that... if it's a co worker that's more difficult but doable imo.

Tell yourself you're being sensitive... what difference does it make whether they really are trying to make you feel bad if you don't allow it anyway... you'll get through it... perspective is everything!

I recently heard a story about how people who went to a conference had their seating all mixed up and many of them were really ReALLY angry and upset about it. One of the speakers for the conference was Joni Eareckson Tada... a lady in a wheelchair since teen years... and so she spoke to the group ahead of the opening...and apologized for those who weren't happy with the seat they had to sit in..... the room went silent.
She explained how she didn't pick her seat either... and then gave a beautiful testimony about God and contentment.... it fully changed the people's perspective, see?

It isn't easy... to try and take a better viewpoint of things...but it surely is worth it, imo!