But it's ridiculous. Here's a very intelligent man, so I know he can learn. Time and time again, we have been over how he just needs to buy some token thing, wrap it. And he just doesn't do it.

Some birthdays of mine, he did absolutely nothing. I told him "Just get my kids and yourself around a table and stick some birthday candles in some kind of dessert", and he still acts like he has no idea what to do.

When things get to the point where you have to spell out what he needs to do over and over again, you just don't want anything anymore :-(