Definite black sheep here. Once my dad told me to move out or be kicked out (because I couldn't find a job), I didn't look back until before my mom died. They fought with each other over money and other crap for almost all their marriage. I've been asked what childhood was like and I say "a battlefield." My dad was physically and emotionally abusive. My mother was an alcoholic. The only reason I went to see my mom was to give her some comfort, only to be lambasted by her mother. I don't miss them.

The one thing I never told them was that I was mentally ill. My brother had a heart condition and they would've thought I was making stuff up to get attention.

Being on SSDI and having Medicare is helpful, but I liked the insurance I had before when I was retired from the military. I paid more but I had lower copays.