It seems to me that you need to at least get a gynecological exam, because early detection of cancer is important.

I think an anesthesiologist should be able to give you a drug that would make you semi-conscious during the exam and eliminate any memory. The date rape drugs would be a crude form of this, but an anesthesiologist would be able to do this much more skillfully.

(Sorry if this is stupid advice. I am not a woman, and I don't know too much about these exams.)