For me, I like having a feeling of teamwork - that the therapist and me are on the same team.

Trust is definitely important.

So is room to question the therapist - I want to be able to be skeptical, and also have a therapist with good critical reasoning skills about the therapy frameworks they are using.

I also like feeling that the therapist and I connect on some level - example, I read widely, and listen to music which isn't mainstream, so while the therapist doesn't have to share my tastes, I'd like to feel some connection, like she's someone who likes some form of variety. Maybe she likes photography, like I do, for example.

I also think that the therapist and I should share some core values. I value my relationships a lot, therefore, it is good if the therapist also values her personal relationships.