I am a 24 year old bisexual woman, and I have a dilemma. I am more interested in women than men, but I cannot seem to attract a girlfriend. On dating sites, almost all the females I contact don't get back to me. Contrast that with 50-60% of men...and I get virtually no messages from women, but so many messages from men that I often make myself "invisible" to straight people so that the messages from men will stop.
I copied and pasted my ok cupid profile here. Can you guys read it and tell me why it is off-putting to women? Do I come off as too ambitious? Queer women tend to not be very interested in me in real life, too...not even as friends.
It breaks my heart!
My self-summaryedit essay
Take one- half cup eccentricity, five tablespoons creativity, 12 fluid ounces discerning intelligence, a quarter pound indecisiveness, and a pinch of unpredictability. Stir in a bowl until completely mixed. Add in a stick of butter and an egg; mix some more. Pour into a 13 x 9 pan and bake at 98.6 degrees for 23 years. Congratulations. You have made a Sara.
What I’m doing with my lifeedit essay
At 23, it appears that the road ahead forks into three paths. The three potential careers I could pursue are:
1). Psychiatry (med school)
2). Clinical Psychology (grad school for a PhD)
3). Novel Writing (no more formal schooling, but success is uncertain and will take time)
So, I have yet to determine exactly what I want to do with my life career-wise, but I know that I want to make a difference in people's lives on both a macro and a micro level. I want a career that will be exciting and mentally stimulating.
Regardless of whether or not it becomes my main source of income, I would love to become a published author. I write fiction, mostly lesbian romances and stories with a dystopian theme. I have two novels under construction. I am also currently working on a literary nonfiction piece, on what it is like to have bipolar disorder, though it is very slow going. I am interviewing patients and helping them to share their stories.
I would love to travel more, both within the US and internationally. I've been to Budapest on a missions trip a few years back, and I studied abroad in Rome. I want to explore the rest of Europe. South America also intrigues me. I am studying Italian on my own, as I hope to return to Italy one day.
I’m really good atedit essay
-philosophizing
-problem solving
-procrastinating!
-listening to others
-daydreaming 
-planning adventures
-creative writing
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and foodedit essay
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The six things I could never do withoutedit essay
1). My family and friends
2). Hope
3). Chai tea
4). Psychology and neuroscience
5). That wonderful time between turning the lights out and falling asleep, when my mind is free to explore whatever it likes
6). Red velvet cupcakes
I spend a lot of time thinking aboutedit essay
What is reality? Is it subjective or objective, absolute or relative? What makes dreams less real than waking life?
Is consciousness a trait only of the human nervous system? Are animals conscious? What about inanimate objects? Maybe the entire universe is mind?
Why do some people succeed while others fail?
How do little factors build on themselves to enact large change?
On a typical Friday night I amedit essay
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me ifedit essay
You should message me if you are looking for a friend or a girlfriend, and you are intrigued by anything I said here.
I'm very non-judgmental and accepting. I am happy to get to know all kinds of people. If you message me, however, and want a reply, please say more than just "hi". Ask me some questions! Start a conversation!