I'm sorry you were involved with a real creep and your co-worker rubbed salt in the wound. It wasn't your fault at all, he lied to you.

If I were single I would definitely google the name of anyone I would date, and honestly, I would make them show me a credit report before I agreed to marry them. I don't care if someone would think that's insecure or untrusting. It's information that is easily, readily available and we all must protect ourselves. Better safe than sorry. They're welcome to get the same info about me.