Thank you so much. I'll ask her psych about this. Its interesting to me that you also mention BPD. May I ask what things I'm describing that correlate with the BPD? I'm so new to all of this. We knew she had issues of some kind, but we're new to her being actually diagnosed, so as far as I am concerned I'm still investigating things.
Let me mention some other things too that she has and see if it also fits something.
1. She has always had sensory issues, especially to clothing and food. She had to have clothing a certain way. She eats virtually nothing but bland food. Kind of food aversion. She will not eat anything I make at all, nor even try it.
2. Poor at sleeping. She's always been poor at getting to sleep. When not at school and left to her own devices, she will stay up way late and sleep in half the day.
3. Takes the simplest request as WW3. (Clean your room, brush your teeth etc)
There's more, but those are stand outs.
The biggest thing for me is that ever since she was a small child she acts ike she is her parents equals, if not superiors. She does not take well to parental discipline. Now, if I try to explain, I don't mean this in a 'your the parent sort her out' way. She truly believes she is being attacked if asked to do something.
She also does not respond well to a change in plan. Like if we say we might visit a place she wants to go but it doesn't work out, she can lose her temper about it. Likewise if she asks me for coke and I say no. That's enough to start verbal abuse of the nastiest kind.

Tanks in advance.