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Originally Posted by venusss
Again, that sounds like a teenage. Eating only certain foods and not eating what parents want and being retarded about clothes... that is pretty much core of many teenage jokes.
Betty McDonalds (and I am pretty sure other writers too) described this in her daughters in her memoir.
Are you sure you just didn't let get over your head? There was a book called Little Tyrant published in Czech. Described kids being particular over things and throwing fits, if it's noth their way. Author thinks it can be "cured" by firm set off loving boundaries. Kids start to dominate when they don't feel safe. Lack of boundaries makes them feel unsafe, because in the back of their minds, it's like you aren't strong enough to take care of them.
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Hi there,
I haven't been clear I don't think. The eating/clothing thing goes way back to early childhood. She's actually better with clothing now as a 16 year old, however her eating is still bad. Sometimes I think I try to explain how she is on here and it gets misinterpreted. I agree that any one of these things either short term/only happened when she turned teenager can be minimized and put down to her 'just being a teenager' but in her case there's so many global issues that have been going on for a long time.
I don't think I did let her get in over my head because I disciplined her. The reason I noticed she was so different was that all my friends I spoke to her about her behavior ( from years ago, not now) all said they found at least one thing that worked, but I tried loads of different techniques and she was SO strong willed, she always just shrugged it off. I was tempted to call Super Nanny so many times.
But now she HAS been seen by a psych and a therapist. The therapist, who has been a social worker and has seen loads told me that my daughter was one of the most strong willed kids she had encountered.
I'm not really writing this to be told it's 'normal.' I already know she has a mental illness of some sort. I'm trying to find my way so that I can get her the right meds, and so I can parent her in the right way.