This can become a lifelong habit (that is, helping others when you yourself are not getting the help you need.) You need to take care of yourself, and maybe refrain a bit from helping others in order to figure out what you need and how to get it. With myself, sometimes it is easier to help someone else than to help myself. Also, if you aren't used to asking for help you could be in for a little surprise. The first or second, or even the third time you ask for help you might not get it! That's why you need to build the habit of seeking help. When I get in a tight corner where I have let myself get out of the habit of asking for help I feel like crap. Like now. Do you see what I am doing? I am trying to help you. That's actually okay because I asked for help on another thread. And because I keep a journal to try to keep track of when I need help and where I can get it. If you go to sleep and wake up in 4 or 5 years that just means you haven't practiced asking for help. As far as other guys, well, you aren't them. Maybe it somehow is easier for them to get help, but that's them. Not helpful to compare but I do it all the time, too.