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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:54 AM
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Originally Posted by RxQueen875 View Post
In your title you asked why these men falling all over you. Well you admitted flirting with them and some men see that as a green light. Especially from a younger woman.

YEP!

You don't even need to be flirting......some guys just think that you're into them simply because you're nice to them or talk to them. (One of the issues a woman has when she has more male friends than female friends...)

However, if you are uncomfortable, then just back off and don't be so flirty with these guys. When you're underage and flirting with guys your age, there is a certain amount of innocence that goes along with it all. But, when you hit age 18, some of that innocence is lost because older guys aren't going to treat you so innocently. I'm sorry if this isn't coming across right, but there is that legal line in the sand at age 18...

And I'm not making any sort of accusations, but constantly flirting with the same guys.....well, many men will view this as you coming on to them. If you shock them with the just being friendly bit, you may be labled as being a tease (really, I hate that word!) as they will think you're just leading them on with no real interest or intentions.

It really is one of those things that women learn as they get older. Unfortunately you do have to be careful about who you associate with, who you flirt with, and so on.

And spoken as someone in their 30's.....yes, the dating pool gets a bit....stagnant once you hit this decade. So of course you're going to have guys who choose to date a little bit younger. Some of them never really matured to begin with. (I know many guys who would never think about dating someone who is just barely legal as your life changes so radically from the time you turn 18 throughout your mid 20's and beyond.)

Sad to say, it can endanger you to have the "its all in fun" sort of attitude with all that you do. I don't mean to scare you, but you really do have to watch your back and be conscious of who you're engaging with.
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