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Originally Posted by stopdog
I think sexual pleasure/numbness can wax and wane with stress and life. Right now, you have had a lot of stress and grief and stuff around your husband's passing. I would give it some time before thinking it was a problem. I think the therapist you see may be steering clear because of the erotic-ness of your fantasy about her from time to time and she is not comfortable with it.
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I could not agree with this more. Emotions play a huge part in sensation and as emotions change so does sexual desire or enjoyment. Try not to stress.
As for the T, there are many reasons she may not have wished to discuss things at this point. You are still entitled to privacy and she may have tried to respect that or as stopdog says she may be uncomfortable having that discussion with you. Not everything has to be discussed and not right now. You don't need to push her buttons (by asking how she pleasures herself) just because she did not know how to advise you at that time.