I could not agree with this more. Emotions play a huge part in sensation and as emotions change so does sexual desire or enjoyment. Try not to stress.

As for the T, there are many reasons she may not have wished to discuss things at this point. You are still entitled to privacy and she may have tried to respect that or as stopdog says she may be uncomfortable having that discussion with you. Not everything has to be discussed and not right now. You don't need to push her buttons (by asking how she pleasures herself) just because she did not know how to advise you at that time.

I'm with SD. When stress gets high it can really put dampener on things. Is it distressing you that you can't and you want to be able to right now? Or is it just the "why" concerning you? (I can't add more on the T thing since other people have said good things).

And I have no problem talking about this stuff. I've brought up sex stuff with my male T. Nothing too detailed. Well. That's not true. I totally discussed cervical mucus once.

I've never discussed sex with T - besides saying that I think sex is for dirty old men and for people who want kids - but (as I'm not a dirty old man and don't want kids ) then there isn't anything to discuss. So I can't be of help, sorry.

Rainbow, I have experienced my T backing off when I've talked about sex, I felt like 'wtf? You're the T here!' I think there was other stuff...she was wary of my transference maybe?

I've had times of just not getting there, and I know myself pretty well
It was around the time I started talking about past issues in therapy. It passes in a few weeks, though I can't identify what made the change!

Could be emotional; could be age-related; could be a combination. Have you been to your gynecologist lately?

I do discuss sexual issues with my T, actually fairly comfortably even though he is male. But he does some specialty work with male sexual problems, so he is very skilled about such topics and very comfortable with it himself.

I never talk about sex with any of my T's. It wasn't necessary for me.
I do have a sexual problem. But I know it's a side effect from the med I'm taking. I haven't told my pdoc about that. It would be too embarrassing for me. Though he has probably seen people who have talked about sex to him and since he went to medical school he's probably seen a lot.

Shouldn't a T be able to talk about sex? She doesn't have to share her experiences, but a client should be able to talk about everything the client wants to talk about.