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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I'm a little lost as to how your bf landing up in hospital became about you. Shouldn't he be the focal point right now?
I get that he brought you and your difficulties to the forefront, but I can sort of see why he would feel neglected or overshadowed.
He probably wasn't expecting a text asking if you should be there for him, in all probability he was just expecting you to be there, as he had been for you in the past.
I would also have said no if someone asked me if they should visit me in hospital.
FWIW, I personally would not have asked my bf permission to be there for him. In fact I look for any "excuse" to do just that, as he's always been my main supporter.
Maybe his resentment doesn't stem from taking care of you, but from feeling like the relationship is a bit lopsided.
Idk, just my 2c, no malice intended, just a different view point on offer.
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I dunno, I'm a firm believer in asking for what you want. If I wanted someone to be in the hospital with me, I'd say "you're planning on spending the night, right?" and if they asked "should I stay" I'd say "um, yeah d*** right you are staying!" Lol, I know that is just me but everything I read says you can't expect people to read your mind. Saying go when you mean stay is passive aggressive.