Nah. We've been exchanging emails and I got another one today. This is absolutely my oldest friend, and I am shocked by the things she has said. I think maybe it is a case of what ChipperMonkey said. We've been friends for decades. A lifetime. Almost like sisters. But I guess I just woke up. I was there for her throughout her cancer and treatment, so it isn't one-sided.

In other friendships of lesser length I have tried the letter thing and it has never worked. Usually it takes a phone call or in person. One friend dumped me after inviting me out for dinner to thank me for being so supportive of her when she was going through a rough time! It was funny because I guess I should have gotten up and left, but my dinner had just been served and it was a really great dinner so I stayed and ate it. She spent most of the time on her cell phone.

This other friendship is bigger. It's like a gd divorce.

I'd be interested to see how your thing goes.