Well, yes I see loneliness as well, but lets break it down a bit. Is it because people were not kind enough to be our friends? Some think like that. I do not.

I have several friends with autism who claim they are very lonely. Still, life throws them just so many people, but it is them that throw those people away. I ask, that person tried to hang out with you, what happened?

They go; "I didn't LIKE them!" or "Oh, its just NN, they are a nobody."

When I ask, but I'm your friend am I not? They go.. "Oh, but that is YOU." Whatever hell that means...

To me it seems they are looking for some elite person at friendship. Also, even when someone really nice comes along, they don't reciprocate, they are not nice back, so that person loses interest. It might sound harsh, but if people cannot give, just take, they will not develop bonds. Also, they might lack something within themselves, because when someone pays interest in them and they cannot "feel" it, they blame it on the other person, not on their own issues.

To get good friends one must be a good friend. There are no other ways since friendships come from someone wanting to be with you. It is not something someone must. Some people need to take a step out of themselves and think a little about other people's needs. I think a lot of autistic people actually can learn this.

One of my autistic friends thinks I should serve all her needs while she should serve none of mine. She even said that is what true friendship is. I am of another opinion.