Okay I can't speak for everyone but I'm still standing. Didn't even have to reach for the smelling salts though I might be clutching my pearls just a little!

So, uh, lots of people find a little weed to be helpful in this situation. Just sayin'. Also, this might be more than what you had in mind, but I've also read that some genital piercings (look up Elayne Angel and VCH piercing) can enhance sensation and be helpful for women who've never had an orgasm. Lastly, and just punch my arm if I'm totally overstepping here because I can do that sometimes, but um, what about your sexual orientation? I think you've mentioned elsewhere that it's been a cause of anxiety in general (beyond ET with your T) and in my experience sex/orgasm generally goes better when you're having sex (or even just imagining sex) with a person who really turns you on.