Maybe they don't mean to throw away chances but may have a social phobia, or compare their "chances" of having the same success. I'm on their side, I suppose.

It can be hard to mimic how they act. Personally, I used to think to myself about how they effortlessly blended in and talked to newbies as if they knew them for years.

I am not attractive enough in real life. I've got big teeth and glasses. Plus I am very thin. These are not traits valued by women. I've lost interest in a social life. Sometimes, I feel it is my other skills that have to get me noticed.

Like one may be good at a particular sport, can draw great pictures, or may be a talented actor. Sometimes, a professional approach can be the only way, as you may just suck at conversing with women. I'm a lover of 80's music, but because it is outdated, most people would perhaps only know certain groups or may only like new music. I'm not into modern music that much. I'm forced to hear it, but it is not something that lives in my world.